if the child is over a certain age I think its ridiculous how parents hover I mean they can ask the simplest questions like where are you going or who are you going to be with I think are appropriate questions but if you are old enough to be out on your own your parents shouldn't hassle you if it makes their life harder.
Yeah, I would say I have helicopter parents to the max. Although I may not like it, there are certain areas in my life I am glad to be more protected. Though I don't think I have any kind of depression. So I really think it depends on the kid.
There are so many parents like this now and its not good for kids growing up. Being involved in their college grades is a little ridiculous. When parents get involved like this I think the teens feel like they can't do anything right. Parents need to be there for their kids but they also need to let them grow on their own and make their own mistakes so that they can learn from them.
I would have to totally agree with this article. What is a young adult going to learn if their parents are still doing everything for them? If you have a parent hovering over you and correcting every little thing you do wrong, you're never going to learn how to do the right thing and you are always going to feel like you need approval from your parents. When a child becomes a young adult and starts to make his or her own decisions, the parents should let them do it by themselves. Sometimes parents just need to back-off.
I think this article is talking more about college kids and beyond, not necessarily high school kids. I think parents still need to be very involved during high school to lead kids in the right direction because if they aren't showing the right path, who will? When they leave home though constant monitoring isn't good. They need to learn how to live on their own and how to be functioning adults in today's society. Contact is still good for advice and tidbits and general interaction, but constant helicoptering isn't the way to go about it.
i could see how hover parenting can cause depression! i mean in my opinion when i leave for college i want to be treated like a grown up and make my own decisions and i would be very annoyed if my parents tried to control me! and after awhile i would get depressed and wonder if i would ever be able to make my own decision
The best learning is done through experience not being told. Kids need to be disciplined so they won't become little serial killers but if they can't be allowed to make mistakes they won't really learn and may make those poor choices as an adult where the consequences are much more severe and long lasting. Kids in high school need a different level of attention than those in college but that doesn't mean they should be told how to live their lives or where to go in their future.
Im going to agree with this article, how is a kid suppose to learn anything if mommy and daddy holding them by the hand and telling them what to do all the time, i do understand parents give advice and thats a good thing but they should learn how to give advice more than telling them what to do
Parents give thier children advice to make sure they are heading in the right path. But no parents should be holding by the hand telling them what to do 24/7. They have to learn some things on their own.
if the child is over a certain age I think its ridiculous how parents hover I mean they can ask the simplest questions like where are you going or who are you going to be with I think are appropriate questions but if you are old enough to be out on your own your parents shouldn't hassle you if it makes their life harder.
ReplyDeleteI agree that there should be a certain age when parents give their kids more freedom.
DeleteIm with miranda on this one there should be an age where you should let the kids be a little more free so they can experience the world on there own.
DeleteYeah, I would say I have helicopter parents to the max. Although I may not like it, there are certain areas in my life I am glad to be more protected. Though I don't think I have any kind of depression. So I really think it depends on the kid.
ReplyDeleteI am glad that you show no signs of depression despite your helicopterian lineage.
DeleteThere are so many parents like this now and its not good for kids growing up. Being involved in their college grades is a little ridiculous. When parents get involved like this I think the teens feel like they can't do anything right. Parents need to be there for their kids but they also need to let them grow on their own and make their own mistakes so that they can learn from them.
ReplyDeleteI would have to totally agree with this article. What is a young adult going to learn if their parents are still doing everything for them? If you have a parent hovering over you and correcting every little thing you do wrong, you're never going to learn how to do the right thing and you are always going to feel like you need approval from your parents. When a child becomes a young adult and starts to make his or her own decisions, the parents should let them do it by themselves. Sometimes parents just need to back-off.
ReplyDeleteI think this article is talking more about college kids and beyond, not necessarily high school kids. I think parents still need to be very involved during high school to lead kids in the right direction because if they aren't showing the right path, who will? When they leave home though constant monitoring isn't good. They need to learn how to live on their own and how to be functioning adults in today's society. Contact is still good for advice and tidbits and general interaction, but constant helicoptering isn't the way to go about it.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Miranda. Kids should be at a certain age for their parents to give them their freedom.
ReplyDeleteI think parents should slowly give more and more freedom to their kids.
ReplyDeletei could see how hover parenting can cause depression! i mean in my opinion when i leave for college i want to be treated like a grown up and make my own decisions and i would be very annoyed if my parents tried to control me! and after awhile i would get depressed and wonder if i would ever be able to make my own decision
ReplyDeleteThe best learning is done through experience not being told. Kids need to be disciplined so they won't become little serial killers but if they can't be allowed to make mistakes they won't really learn and may make those poor choices as an adult where the consequences are much more severe and long lasting. Kids in high school need a different level of attention than those in college but that doesn't mean they should be told how to live their lives or where to go in their future.
ReplyDeleteIm going to agree with this article, how is a kid suppose to learn anything if mommy and daddy holding them by the hand and telling them what to do all the time, i do understand parents give advice and thats a good thing but they should learn how to give advice more than telling them what to do
ReplyDeleteParents give thier children advice to make sure they are heading in the right path. But no parents should be holding by the hand telling them what to do 24/7. They have to learn some things on their own.
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